Back-to-School Tips for Foster Parents
It’s that time of year again – families are starting to get ready for summer to end and school to begin. Preparing to switch gears from the lazy, unstructured days of summer to the more defined routine of the school year can cause stress for kids. Many foster children, especially those who have experienced trauma transitioning in and out of several schools, become anxious just thinking about the start of a new school year!
Transition anxiety is common in the days and weeks leading up to a new school year. Children wonder what their teacher(s) will be like, whether or not they’ll be able to perform academically, and if they’ll be able to find their way around. Some worry about fitting in and making new friends. Starting a new school year can be a big deal to a child.
Here are some tips for setting your child up for success before school starts and then offering caring support throughout the school year.
Back-to-School Tips:
- Prep for the school year sleep routine. Start kids going to bed earlier and earlier each night until they reach their normal school sleeping times. You might practice getting up in the morning on the school schedule a few days before they need to.
- Focus on healthy eating. During school, kids won’t have access to snacks and sugary things that are often available at home. So in the days leading up to school, be sure to provide fruits, veggies, and the kinds of food they’ll enjoy at school.
- Cut back on “screen time.” Setting boundaries with video games, cellphones, tablets, and television will help prepare kids for the school routine.
- Help them get organized. Have supplies and school clothes ready prior to the first day of school. Follow the suggested list provided by your school so your child does not have to feel anxious or worried that they do not have what they’ll need.
- Empathize. Kids need to feel supported and encouraged, no matter how trivial their concerns and fears may seem. Just knowing that their parent is there for them and willing to listen can give them comfort and relieve stress.
- Stay involved! Know your child’s teachers and daily schedule. Take advantage of apps and websites that schools provide to keep you “in the know” of what is expected of your child.
- Check in with your child after school. Initiative conversation after school. What were the highs and the lows? Listen actively, show genuine interest, and resist the urge to “fix” before really hearing what your child is saying.
- Be alert. Look for signs and signals of anxiety, academic problems, and bullying and address them early. Take note if your child’s personality or demeanor changes dramatically. Is there increased anger, a desire to sleep more than usual, lack of interaction with you or other members of the family, tears, aggressive behavior? Do your best to give your child a safe place to vent and share feelings.
- Take advantage of support systems. Remember that your child’s teacher can connect you with a wealth of support for your child, including counseling and assessment services. And your foster care agency is equipped in to help you in multiple ways. Don’t hesitate to ask questions and access help if you need it.
